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How to co-parent through conflict

Not every co-parenting relationship after a divorce works smoothly. Some parents in Texas may have an ex-spouse who is volatile, manipulative and narcissistic. To deal with this, parents need to focus on two things. One is the best interests of the children. The other is controlling their own reactions.

To prevent friction, exes should set boundaries. One should try to recognize the patterns of conflict they fall into with the ex-spouse and disengage when they see it happening. A parent does not have to respond to everything the other parent says. They can restrict their replies so that they are only about the children. There are even online-based tools that are specifically designed to help parents communicate about custody issues.

These tools document all communication, but parents can document on their own even if they are not using them. It is a good idea to note down dates and times while saving emails and texts in case the conflict does go to court. One might need to ask for a change in the parenting agreement if the other parent is simply too difficult to work with. Another option may be parallel parenting. This is an approach to parenting after a divorce in which parents have almost no communication with one another.

Courts generally start with the assumption that having a relationship with both parents is what's best for the child, and judges are unlikely to change an agreement because parents do not get along. In some cases, however, a parent might be concerned about their child's safety with the other parent. Someone in this situation may want to consult an attorney about how they should proceed, but they will probably need to present evidence. This might include documentation from police or hospital reports regarding abuse.

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