When lines of communication break down and a marriage becomes irreparable, it’s time to take action and file for divorce. In general, individuals who choose to divorce are seeking space and time away from an ex-spouse. For those couples with no children, making a clean break from an ex may be possible. However, for individuals with children, for better or worse, they are forever tied to an ex-spouse.
For some divorcees, the sobering reality that they will never truly be free from an ex-spouse is maddening. It's important to note, however, that as time marches on, both exes will also move on and the animosity and resentment felt towards an ex will likely dissipate as well. It's also important to note, however, that when an individual is a dad or mom, he or she can't wait until hard feelings subside to communicate with an ex-spouse about matters related to child custody.
Regardless of one's feelings towards an ex, this individual is the mother or father of a shared child and will therefore always play an important and integral part in his or her life. No parent wants to see their child hurt and treating an ex-spouse poorly or speaking ill of an ex only serves to ultimately harm one's child. This is especially true in cases where a mom or dad openly complains about an ex in front of a child.
Being a parent requires a tremendous amount of maturity, patience and compassion. The same attributes that make an individual a good parent should be put to use when dealing with an ex-spouse. Being able to effectively communicate with an ex about matters related to a child's wellbeing ultimately makes life easier and better for everyone involved, especially a son or daughter.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Get Into Your Divorce, Because You'll Never Get Over It," John McElhenney, July 9, 2014